Life is not rainbows and roses. Yesterday, Jess was suspended from her job. She chose to be physical instead of using her words. I’ve decided that she will be going through mommy’s boot camp for the next few days. We will make lemonade out of lemons. Who knows, maybe we will make Margaritas by the time we are through.
My plan is to go voiceless. This makes modeling language the focus. Also, now that time is not a factor, Jess will be asked to do everything without assistance from me. As a Mom, I fall in the trap where it is easier for me to do the house chores than have her help. Time for me to put my OCD aside and let her realize “mommy” isn’t saving the day. She needs to step up her game. So far, she has dressed herself completely (I did do some prompting using SFY on her AAC device). She then stripped her bed and put the sheets in the washer.
Jess is just realizing that she is not going to work. She asked about the Arc van and I explained that because of her actions, she will be home for the rest of the week. This did not please her. The expression on her face spoke volumes. Sorry kid, you are stuck with me.
When someone is non-verbal, you need to sleuth out why behaviors surface. Typically, it is due to frustration or pain. I doubt anyone did anything egregious to her to warrant her actions, but obviously she is frustrated. Jess needs to figure out how to resolve her own issues without resorting to physical contact.
Jess has been using her talker less and less at work because her co-workers do not understand her. The OTC is loud and it is hard for people to hear her device. When she does use her talker there, she isn’t using enough words for others to follow her logic. When Jess is with people that are familiar with her device or in a quiet, slower paced setting, she uses her talker beautifully. Regardless as to why, she has to be held accountable for her actions. She is aware of where she went wrong. Hopefully boot camp will remind her how important communication is.
Time for me to get dressed. I have to go to the barn and take care of George. I hope she doesn’t see this as a reward. When we get home, the house needs to be cleaned and dinner prepared. There will be no TV, no radio, no iPod. I think this is going to be harder on me than Jess.