Today we visited my Mom. Mom is 90, living in assisted living and she is in the late stages of Alzheimer’s. Even though we were there, it didn’t appear as though she was.
Mom is losing her ability to walk. She has lost her hearing. She is not able to form words. She getting closer to being in total isolation.
When someone gets to this stage, the first assumption made is that they are not aware of anyone or anything. In fact, this is exactly how I felt today when we were with her. What if I am wrong? What if she is seeing me and having complete thoughts? What if her body has failed her and she is trapped inside?
People make this assumption about my daughter because she does not speak or hold eye contact. I am not going to make this same assumption about my Mom. When I held Mom’s hand, she held it tight. Mom is indeed “there”.