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Maui…our final chapter

November 27, 2016 by Mary Leave a Comment

It has taken me awhile to write about the conclusion of our trip. Either we were on the go, or too tired … needed time to reflect… this is filled with photos!

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The challenge: much to do, so little time.
The trick: to fit everything in without rushing.
It’s an art to make this balance, but I’m happy to report, mission accomplished.

Our trip was filled with highs and lows, but this is not what you might think. Keep reading and you will understand.  Our adventure began when we became a band of three. After a few weeks on our own, my husband joined us. The first family thing we did was have breakfast together at Kula Lodge. The view, food, and service were outstanding.img_4351 img_4360

The Lodge is one turn away from the road to Haleakala, where the road meets the sky, literally. At first, it was fun driving along the winding road, but after the ranger station, the road narrowed and we drove through clouds. There was no road beyond the white line. My fear of heights went into crisis mode and I squealed every time the car was close to the edge. Those last fives miles were brutal. When we reached the top, I wanted to kiss the ground. Over the years, I’ve done this drive five times, but this was the first time I felt panic.img_5247

At 10,030 feet above sea level, it’s cold and windy at the crater. The landscape looks more like the moon than earth. It’s odd to look down on the clouds. It feels like this is the top of the world.img_5145

After exploring, Husband took the wheel and we headed for the sea. I asked him to tell me when our lane was hugging the mountain so I could open my eyes.  Even so, this didn’t stop me from shrieking. The view is phenomenal, but the only way I will return is if I’m taken against my will.

On the drive down, when I could open my eyes
On the drive down, when I could open my eyes

img_5346Our next destination was the Kaanapali Ocean Inn. It’s managed by the Royal Lahaina which allows us access to all their amenities. We LOVED the salt water pool!  Our room wasn’t beach front, but it was ocean view and Molokai was in our direct line of site. We arrived before check-in so waited at the bar, overlooking the pool and ocean. At one point, everyone stood up and I realized it was because a baseball game was starting and the National Anthem was being played on TV. Jess ordered a root beer (that’s as hard as she gets) and was beside herself with excitement!

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img_5488The next morning we headed to Lahaina.  We walked around the harbor and the next thing we knew, we were taking a ride in a yellow submarine called the Reef Dancer (This was our low). The first part of the tour, with the aide of Diver Dan, we explored the reef. On the way back, we sat up top and enjoyed the view of Lahaina, the harbor, and the west Maui mountains.

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On Tuesday we swam at Black Rock and hung out at the Tiki Bar with Dale (I have history here, we go way back, but that’s another story). The drink special for the day was a Pina colada. Jess finished mine, but then made a face because she could taste the alcohol. She’s a teetotaler.

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img_5695There were many highlights during this trip. We all enjoyed the Ulalena show It’s a blend of ancient hula and Cirque du Soleil. It was extra special for me because one of my friend’s daughter is part of the cast. Jess was star struck when she met Natalie after the production.
img_5690img_7202Jess worked through her ocean anxiety. At first, she wouldn’t step foot on the sand, but with Dad’s reassurance, not only was she willing to walk along the shore, but she swam in the ocean with ease. Jess and I loved sculling on top of the swells at Kaanapali. The sensation of the waves passing through your body before they land on shore is relaxing.

Husband had a couple of memorable experiences. The water is rather shallow over the coral in Olowalu. While snorkeling, he discovered a sandy channel that led him farther out to sea. At one point, he was out of my sight. I was momentarily alarmed at the thought of his being lost at sea. and wondering “what will we img_6223do?”.  This is another irrational fear that pops into my head on occasion. Finally, I caught sight of him. Phew… Not only did he see many types of fish, but he had to stop and let a giant sea turtle pass in front of him. When he shared this story with our friends, it was then that they told us about a shark attack. It had been years ago. Just like in the movie “Finding Nemo”, there is a drop off not far from where he was swimming. All they found was her torso. Sharks like deep water.  Stories like this make you respect the ocean.

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When we were back in Lahaina, husband had his first surf lesson. He caught four waves and rode two. The water wasn’t very deep and the surf break is coral. His surfing experienced ended when he cut his hand.  It’s wise to get out of the water if you are bleeding, especially after being told about a shark tale.

img_6434The helicopter ride to Molokai gave us another perspective of the island. After the first few minutes in the air, Jess said this was “more, more, more remarkable”. This experience was made possible because we consented to suffer through a timeshare presentation. They said, “it’s not a timeshare”. No, maybe not, but there is no advantage to buying into what they had to offer either. Consider this warning my public service.

img_6687img_6502img_6659img_6500img_3439Attending The Apostolic Faith Church, aka Jesus Coming Soon church, was an emotional experience. It’s a tiny little church that was made famous in an Eagles song. At one point they had a 20-minute prayer. It was a little long as far as Jess was concerned. She injected humor on her talker and said “Martini, want, find”. I’m afraid this church doesn’t get many visitors which is a shame. They worshipped by singing classic hymns and all praise to our Lord.  As they say, if you don’t know the answer, the answer is Jesus!

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On a date at Makawao Steak House

There is no doubt that I ate too much. Makawao Steak House has outstanding food at reasonable prices. I preferred dining in the comfy leather chairs in the bar area. My only regret was not asking exactly what was in their Lychee Cooler.

I couldn't resist taking taking this photo of such an adorable couple
I couldn’t resist taking this photo of such an adorable couple
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There are always rainbows

Honu in Lahaina was my other favorite restaurant. Seating is as close to the water as you can get. Happy hour is a must and eating off the bar menu makes it one of the best deals in town. Their fried oyster sandwiches practically melt in your mouth. Evy, thank you for sharing this with me, I probably wouldn’t have found it on my own. I took the family there and we had a wonderful, memorable, family meal.

Friends and family made this trip extra special. It wouldn’t have been possible without Kathy offering us her bungalow. She greeted us at the airport with lei’s, helped me find our rental car and then had us follow her home so we wouldn’t get lost. There are no streetlights upcountry and no one to ask. The bungalow had a welcome sign, bouquet of flowers, a fridge of food and slippers for our feet. Kathy even did my laundry and tidied up for us too. She included Jess in a “girls night” so husband and I could go on a date. We rarely get out as a couple and this was unexpected to have alone time. Mahalo to you and Jody for making us feel at home.  Evy and Jini, you spoiled me too!

I never thought Jess would be able to make this trip. Traveling 17 hours by plane with an Angel (two flights with a two-hour layover in California) to get to Maui seemed inconceivable. Then there was the six-hour time difference. How would she manage that? Every day we were on the go and nothing phased her. She acted like a seasoned traveler. There was a time, whenever we planned anything special for Jess, it never went as planned and everyone was miserable. However, this goes to show that anything is possible and why we need to live the motto, try, try and try again. You never know what is possible.

PS-We had a friend from church on our first flight,  Jess was recognized by a friend of Kathy’s on top of Haleakala and the diver from the Reef Dancer sat next to husband on the flight out of Kahului on our flight home.  The world really is a small place.  You never know who you will meet!

This was the goal, to be comfortable in the ocean. The highlight of our trip!

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The other faces of Maui

November 8, 2016 by Mary Leave a Comment

img_4417Maui is beautiful but the people are the fabric. They are the reason I keep returning.  They make me feel at home.

I’m happy to report that the Aloha spirit is alive and well. When Jess catches someone’s eye, they mirror back her smile. She tends to wave at people, even if she doesn’t know them. This is an Angel trait, however, since everyone waives, she fits in nicely.

But this post is about the other faces of Maui.  On the radio yesterday, the local animal shelter reported about the dogs and “cat” that had been recently found.  The island really is just a small town.

We pass the animal shelter every time we go to the beach. One of my favorite kitties, Dottie-dot”  had been adopted animal-shelterfrom here. It takes a lot of willpower for me not to stop at the shelter.

One of the hardest aspects being away from home, especially for an extended period of time, is I miss Roxy and the three cats.

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Roxy

Roxy has shown her displeasure.  This is the result of anxiety.  Looks like mama is going to need a new chair. “Don’t worry Roxy, we will be home soon”.

Fortunately, we have met many animals since we’ve been here and they have filled the void.

The local dogs stop and say hello to Jessie

The local dogs stop and say hello to Jessie

These are homeless kitties that I will not be able to bring home...sigh

These are homeless kitties that I will not be able to bring home…sigh

Chickens live in the country and in town

This is a city chicken. He must have crossed the street.

Before the Hula Grill, it was the Crab Catcher. Crabs gracefully move a top the sand...

Before the Hula Grill, it was the Crab Catcher. They are fun to watch as they tap dance atop the sand..

Even the cows have pretty faces

Even the cows have pretty faces

This little girl said "Mom, throw the ball one more time!"

This little girl said “Mom, throw the ball one more time!”

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This is from google images…my photos came out blurry.

I’d love to have a gecko.  However, it would be cruel and unusual punishment to be taken from the island and live in a cage and I’m sure the airline has rules.

Aloha…

update… this was one of our geckos img_6194

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On Maui time..

November 1, 2016 by Mary 7 Comments

The mornings are peaceful upcountry.

Another day in paradise, waking up to the rain and listening to the birds…

Maui time means you get there when you get there, no rush. This works for us. Jess needs this extra time to get herself ready in the morning and I’m not stressed by having to be somewhere.img_3645

Jess has been relatively quiet up until now. This morning she was bursting with conversation.  She talked about the people she has met, the beach, rainbows and the fresh mango, papaya and pineapple we had for breakfast.

I know it’s tough, but we are off to the beach now..may stop and watch the windsurfers on our way.

Wind surfers at Ho'okipa
Windsurfers at Ho’okipa

If it’s hot, we may get another Maui shaved ice. They are ‘ono which means delicious in Hawaiian. img_3680On our way home, maybe we will see another rainbow.img_3577

 

or drive by the surfboard fence…img_3596

 

We will check to see if the bananas have ripened…img_3602img_3654Regardless of what we do, we are are enjoying each others company and this trip of a lifetime. This Angel is a fantastic travel companion!

Maui no ka oi

Aloha!

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Aloha Maui!

October 26, 2016 by Mary 2 Comments

This post is more of a travel log. It’s nice to record the memory and not have to repeat the story…. Day 1:

img_2977 Didn’t have to tell Jess twice. As soon as the car arrived, she was out the door and we were off on our first girls retreat!img_2979

As long as supports are in place, traveling is doable. I’m glad we had skycap service at the airport. Initially, I felt that standing in line for 40 minutes or more would be too difficult, however, I didn’t realize how far she would have had to walk to get to the terminal. The wheelchair was a good idea after all.

We arrived two hours early as advised and only had a little over an hour to wait at the gate. 30 minutes before our flight, I realized that there just wasn’t enough activity and checked img_2989the board. Sure enough, the gate changed, so we ran!  Jess had early boarding and was told they’d let us know, but when we did get on the plane, we were the last to be seated?  I was a little flustered while settling in. Out of nowhere, a young man appeared and said, “I’m surprised to see you?”. Jon is a friend of ours from church!  I had been so anxious about traveling and it was comforting to see a familiar face.

The first leg of the trip was a piece of cake. Jess wouldn’t wear the headphones, but I swear she can lip read the movies.  on was able to visit with us for awhile which broke up the long flight for all of us.  Upon landing, we had dinner together before heading in different directions.

The leg from LAX to Maui was a bit more challenging. The plane was delayed 30 minutes. Then we sat on the tarmac for an hour before we taxied around the airport. This made an already long flight that much longer. If we wanted to watch a movie, we needed to download the United app to our device. There were no power outlets and I didn’t want to use up the battery. This was not wise for a 5 1/2 hour flight.  The last three hours, all Jess wanted to do was take off her seat belt and bolt. Of course, there is nowhere to go. Somehow, we managed to distract each other. Calm returned as soon as the city lights came into view.  Upon landing, we were again greeted by Skycap and were taken from our gate to baggage.img_3016

Seeing KB make her way to us with purple plumeria leis was a sight for sore eyes. Kath was the first friend I made when I moved to Maui and who we’d be staying with this trip.

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Mr. O

As soon as we found the rental car  (it’s a little older and has some idiosyncrasies? Just reminds me of my beach car). We were off.  There’s a new road out of the airport and KB wanted to make sure we didn’t get lost as we made our way up-country at night. Google maps can’t be trusted and you may, or may not get a cell signal.  It’s no place to get lost, especially when you’ve been up for 24 hours.

img_3019When we got to the house, Mr. O greeted us, met Yoda the kitty and then were taken to our bungalow.  The first thing I saw when we entered was a welcome sign, a fragrant floral arrangement and lots of good eat treats. Thank you Jodi & KB! For the next month, we will enjoy this new home!

As Jess and I we were drifting off to sleep, I glanced at my watch, it was 5:30 am at home. The last thing I remember was hearing the rain.

At 3 am (9 am at home) we both woke up. We are sharing a bed. Logistically, it makes sense. Walking around your own home at night is one thing. It’s completely different when you are someplace unfamiliar. Other than naps, Jess and I have never slept together. I’m shocked that we each don’t wake each other up. Told her we had to adjust to the new time and sleep in to at least 6 am.

img_3027By 8:30, we had breakfast and headed out the door. Initially I thought we’d head to a beach in Kihei. We stopped at Hanzawa’s Variety store for gas and then drove through Makawao. While we were driving down the mountainside, the first thing Jess said upon seeing the view was “OMG”!

I didn’t make the turn to Kihei. The draw was too strong and I found myself headed for Lahaina side.img_3062

img_3158We parked at Whaler’s Village, shopped for slippers and sunscreen at the ABC store, then made our way to the Tiki Bar at Kaanapali Beach Hotel. I knew Dale would be working. I’m not a drinker but did spend a lot of years at this bar talking story with my friends. Dale made Jess a strawberry banana smoothie and we chatted for a little bit before heading off to Black Rock.  Jess was making quiet little squeals of delight as we walked the path along the the beach. With her shoes off, she headed towards the shore. The gentle wave breaks were too intimidated and she did an Angel thing, she sat down and wouldn’t get up! (I’ve heard other Angelman Syndrome parents say that their kids would plant themselves too).  img_3159One of my goals this trip, to get Jess comfortable with the ocean.  Eventually, I cajoled her back on to her feet and we made it back to the KBH pool. The water was deeper than she expected so she swam to the other side.  Afterward, we rested on chaise lounges till we became restless.

There was light traffic on the pali. I asked Jess what she wanted to eat, she responded “anything”, but then thought img_3128again and asked for Burger King. There wasn’t one where we were headed and ended up at Panda Express.  For a chain, it is yummy. From there it was only a couple of miles to my friend’s house where we were greeted with more leis.

Jini and I had worked together so many years ago. It was nice for Jess to put a face to a name. In fact, she’s comfortable with all of my Maui friends. They make me feel as if I never left, and Jess as if she had always lived here. There’s no wonder why this will always be home for me.

Before heading back Upcountry, we stopped at Costco. The plan was to have roasted chicken and salad with KB, but my friend Evy called and we met for a light bite before heading back up the mountain. (Good thing Jess and I have been sharing all our meals). It’s remarkable to be with friends whom you haven’t seen in years, but you feel like it’s only been a day or two. Looking forward to longer visits!

Back on the road, just before we entered Paia, there was a rainbow. On Maui, you see rainbows every day. We then drove through a light shower. The car wipers don’t go back to starting position when turned off, but instead, would stop in odd places.  At least they work and are amusing.  This rental car has personality!img_3149

After washing off the beach sand, we headed to the house for dinner, a couple glasses of wine and had a movie play in the background as we visited.

Good times. Good times! Feeling blessed to have this opportunity to be with friends and have Jess be able to make this trip. The cost of the airline miles for the three of us came to $30.60. When KB learned this, she offered us a place to stay.  When an opportunity presents itself, you take it.

Jess is the same age now as I was when I lived here. I’m excited to show her the island. From tropical, high desert, rainforest and eucalyptus trees, to watching the wind surfers, walk through artist studios and of course listening to all the island sounds.  I don’t know which I enjoy more, the music, hearing to the waves break or listening to the locals talk. I’m not eavesdropping, I just like the lilt of their voices.

Only a few short years ago, this trip never would have been an option. Jess’s needs were too great. Where once her attention span lasted only a few seconds, now she’s much more centered. Her independent living skills have greatly improved too. Of course, everything changed when Jess got her Talker. The ability to communicate has been life changing for her and for us.  We share about her Talker every chance we get.  People want to know! So cool to have Baby SFY on my iPhone too. Heidi, we are loving it!

It’s time to slather ourselves in sunscreen and head to the beach.

All for now…

Aloha

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Keep Calm and Carry On

March 14, 2020 by Mary 2 Comments

We can’t make it to Maui but instead will head to the Jersey shore. I did my part to support the company and purchased a six-pack.

When Jess was a newborn, our next-door neighbor couldn’t wait to hold her. As I placed my baby, my first and only child in her arms, she then said, “I have a terrible cold right now…” to which I immediately grabbed Jessie back. What would possess her to be so thoughtless?  Where was the common sense? Unfortunately, the damage was done and Jessie had her first cold before the week was out, however, I did learn a valuable lesson to be more discerning.

Several years later, Jessie had a well-check appointment in early January with her doctor. Being that it was cold and flu season, I had Jess wear mittens while in the waiting room. Too many times, Jessie had gotten sick after being at the doctor’s so it seemed a sensible solution. However, when the doctor saw her, he poo-pooed my logic. Jessie was at the stage where she needed the sensory feedback and put everything in her mouth and it made perfect sense to me to have her not touch toys and books that sick children had handled.

There’s nothing wrong with taking precautions when it comes to our health, yet during this current virus crisis, I’m a bit perplexed. I understand the concern but not the panic. We are being inundated with information, you’d think the world was ending. The difference between the last viral scare compared to now is how the media is covering the story. I don’t think people are stopping to process everything they are hearing. When the CDC advised those at high-risk stock up on supplies, the general public took this to include them. People are fighting over bottled water and there’s no toilet paper on the shelves. I’ve even heard that Corona beer sales were down by over 30% due to its name (think about that for a second and question the logic). This prompted me to write the company and tell them they are missing an opportunity. Their commercials should say that their beer is the perfect antidote because there is no healthier place to be than on the beach breathing in the salty air.

Like everyone else, Jessie’s program has been closed for the last two weeks. We are going to take advantage of this time and head to the shore. Sure, the water is cold, but a good dose of salty air will be refreshing! Even better it won’t be crowded.

It probably would be a good time to work on an art project. We have been collecting magazines for paper piecing and there are a few hikes that are calling our name too.

I’m looking forward to this time together. As they say, every crisis is an opportunity. Hopefully, everyone will chill and find a way to stay calm and carry on.

PS- If you can’t find, hand sanitizer or antibacterial wipes, make your own!

Hand sanitizer:

2/3 cup isopropyl rubbing alcohol, 99%

1/3 cup aloe vera gel

optional, 8-10 drops of essential oil, lavender, lemon, or any scent that you prefer.

Mix all ingredients together and store in a bottle

Here is a link, for antibacterial wipes.

 

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Don’t feed the Sharks

July 2, 2018 by Mary Leave a Comment

It’s summer and who doesn’t like a good shark tale?

When Peter Benchley wrote the book Jaws, he happened to live down the street from my parents. I babysat for his family a couple of times and his kids even rode one of my ponies. After his book came out, they moved from our small town to Princeton. Thanks to him, no one wanted to go in the water in the summer of 1975.

Racing outrigger canoes in Maui

Years later, I was living on Maui and spent as much time as possible in the ocean. My girlfriends and I raced outrigger canoes and the local boys took us night fishing. We oohed and aahed at the site of Humpback whales but when the fishermen spotted barracuda in the water, we decided to get out of the water. My diver friends saw manta rays, Moray eels and the occasional sea turtle (they were still being hunted at that time, however, now they are showing a resurgence). The only time I ever thought about sharks was after hearing about a surfboard being bitten. The joke was not to wear a swimsuit that was the color of yum-yum yellow.

On our last visit to Maui, we went to Olowalu reef. My friend had suggested it because the water is shallow and the waves tend to be flat. Jessie and I stayed near the shore and my husband snorkeled out a bit farther.

Later that night, as we were sharing our day with my friend, she turned to another guest and asked, “how long ago was that shark attack?”.  I don’t recall if the answer had been five or ten years, it was a detail that didn’t seem very important. All I could think of why did she send us there? cue music.

With July 4th weekend nearly upon us, they are showing movie trailers for Jaws. I don’t believe Jessie has seen that movie. I’m not sure if it is a good idea or not. We just got her comfortable swimming in the ocean and I don’t want to alarm her. She freaks at the sound of E.T. and I’m sure theme music for Jaws will haunt her too, just like it does everyone who has seen the movie.

Thank goodness we don’t have to worry about sharks in the pool, at least not until we hear the music.

And one more thing, don’t feed sharks. This woman just learned this lesson the hard way.

Stay cool.

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